Self compassion is something I preach, it’s something that 90% of the time I practice. I’ve been open about my journey and as a result I find people coming to me for a chat or advice about their own journey. I’ve said it before it’s incredibly humbling, to hear that your story has helped someone else and every single person who has turned to me for help has in turn helped me. It’s why I’m always looking for a more open dialogue on mental health, we can all learn an awful lot from one another, from what has worked for one person and of course to normalize the entire matter. As I said in my previous blog, educating myself on different techniques and learning from others has been key to me making the progress I have made.
I am aware I will always going forward have times when I’m going to slip back into really anxious or dark places. I can accept that and I can get through that. It’s a well trodden path and I have a lot of tools to help me manage. With the best will in the word I learned the past week sometimes all rational and everything I learned will go out the window. I had a blip and very much felt I was back at square one.
Now I wasn’t, but was locked, remain locked in a battle between the rational and irrational parts of my head. An actual representation of an angel and devil on my two shoulders, the rational angel currently winning the battle thankfully. I know how to cope and manage bad times, I know I don’t need a reason why I am anxious and struggling, writing is me taking my power back from the devil who is telling me I’m weak and I won’t get through. Hence this post, writing is one of my greatest tools in the struggle.
Every time I have a battle my strongest and fiercest ally will always be my support circle. My close circle is small, tough times will always reveal those who are meant to stay by your side and I certainly have found that out. Life moves on, we all grow and change and those you are meant to stay with you will. Hard times will always reveal true friends and I am beyond lucky to have the best bunch of people alongside my family steering me when I tend to loose the run of myself. When I forget to be kind to myself I have one constant in my now wife to remind me what I need to be doing and where I’ve come from in the past.
I would go to me for advice, I generally have a good grasp of my mental health and keep it in check. So it’s a surreal experience to be coming out of a week where all rational disappeared and I struggled badly as a result. As I said above I had a few people who were willing to point out what is generally obvious to me but I had lost sight of this week. Not walking the path alone has seen me emerge from it yet again. The tightness in my chest has moved on and I am able to reflect, again I was quick to reach for help which is a good sign. I’m not going to sit and beat myself up for being hard on myself as that would become a circle of negative thoughts.
I have accepted this week, probably haven’t embraced it as I have at times. A new willingness to keep working on my mental health and staying on top of things. I’m coming through it with clearer eyes and a pride to say I made it and as always my story isn’t over yet.
“Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others”
“This is a moment of suffering. Suffering is part of life. Let me be kind to myself in this moment. Let me give myself the compassion I need”
“When you go through the hardest of times, the people that come to your aid are the ones that you will carry with you forever. The people that don’t, no matter how close you perceived them to be, should not be part of your inner circle. Pain and hardships help highlight who is, who has and who will always be there for you throughout the roller coaster of life” Continue reading “I’ll get by with a little help from my friends”